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Saturday, April 19, 2008

Ma-Ma?

So Khalid still doesn't talk. At all. He doesn't even say Mama. I mean, he does say things like akichigaa and gagin-gagin and mamamamamamaaaaaaa, but nothing with meaning and context.

I'm not worried about his development, just impatient to be able to communicate with him. All of the recommendations about helping ease sibling rivalry and smoothly introducing a new baby to your toddler involve communicating with your child and getting them to help you care for the baby. Multiple mothers, including all you lovely people in my comment box (I apologize for not being able to reply most of the time) recommend the same thing- let your toddler help and the problem will resolve itself.

I completely agree, but 'please bring me the powder' is about as meaningful to Khalid as akichigaa is to me. We're not speaking the same language, and I know he gets frustrated trying to communicate what he wants. I end up handing him everything on the dining table only to find out he wants something from the window-sill behind it.

So how do you involve a non-verbal toddler in caring for a newborn? As it is right now, Khalid probably thinks his sister's name is Gently. He approaches her, raises his hand, and is greeted with "Khalid jaan, gently. Gently... no whacking! Pat her gently, gently!" I wouldn't be surprised if it was his first word, heh.

Ah well, Iman is doing well Alhamdulillah, and seems happy and amused at things in general when she's awake. Alhamdulillah that newborns spend so much time sleeping, it gives me time to lavish some attention on Khalid when I'm not running after him and trying to put the house back together in his wake.

Gots to go, both kids are asleep and their mother needs a shower.

Over & Out,
Abez & Tribe

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3 Comments:

At 20/4/08 6:40 AM, Blogger The Sane One said...

Salaam Abez

You could try teaching him sign language, alot of babies pick it up quickly and it gets rid of the frustation!

http://www.babies-and-sign-language.com/

.x.

 
At 20/4/08 1:43 PM, Blogger Mona said...

hahaha, i love the idea of his first word being gently!
:)
i hope things get easier.
hugs.

and they have these sign language classes in karama someplace, for babies from 3 months.

 
At 23/4/08 8:20 AM, Blogger EnJay said...

I love the header picture :)

 

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